Watched 'Midnight in Paris' last night. What a great film! I won't spoil it for those who haven't seen it yet, but it did get me to thinking about life in general.
It always seems that the grass is greener in the yard next to us, but is it really? I mean, every move, every decision comes with consequences. We've all wondered "what if", right? And that's fine. You just can't let it consume your life. I mean, for every move we make, there are a hundred others that could have been taken. Are we supposed to know them all? NO!!!
We have to do what's right for us at that time. Not in the past, not in the future. Maybe that's why I live by the philosophy of no regrets. Why waste the time?
I mean, sure, what if I'd never gone walking to the corner store the night I first met my husband? Then I wouldn't have the two beautiful girls that I do now. I wouldn't have had the heartbreak I've had with either. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't have had that heartbreak with someone else.
Life is what we make of it!! Plain and simple. There will always be problems, just as there will always be solutions. It's just that those solutions may not appeal to us very much. Take the current situation of the world in general. Many, many people have fallen on hard times. But for every person that has fallen, there's also been a reconnection to what really matters.
Life is full of choices...you can choose to let the "down" times defeat you or you can look them straight in the face, accept the lesson and move forward. And moving forward will be the hardest decision you will ever make because the majority of the time you're moving into the unknown.
As an example, ten years ago my marriage was on the rocks. Neither of us was sure we wanted to stay married, but didn't know what to do about it either. Then, my husband had an affair. It lasted for nine months. By the end of it, I was devastated. But, I also had to be honest and realize that the affair was as much my fault as his. Yes, he had the affair, but I, in turn allowed it to happen. I knew he was having the affair. In fact, I knew the night he started it. I have a diary entry with proof of that. But, I did nothing about it. I said nothing. Ergo...I was just as much to blame.
After much soul searching, on both our parts, we decided to stick it out. To try harder, to talk more, to just be there for each other. I'm not saying that it's easy. FAR FROM IT!! But anything worth having is worth fighting and working hard for. You just need to decide for yourself if what you're working for is what you want. You have to want it or it won't work no matter how hard you try. And in the case of relationships, you both have to want it. It still takes two the last time I checked!!
There will always be doubts from time to time. And what you've worked for in the past may not be the right thing to work for in the future. Life is constant change. It has to be or everything becomes stagnant. And that's a pretty stinky situation to be in the last time I checked ;-)
Deep down, we all know what is right for us. It's just that 95% of the time, it takes a leap of faith. A scary prospect, I know, but trust me....It's well worth it, whether you succeed or fail. But, then again, if you took that leap, you didn't really fail did you?
So, 'til next time...take a deep breath and realize that life does go on.....
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